Yeeaaaaahhhh, if you have space colonies already, your Earth is way ahead of mine. What are they like? Do humans live on the moon and such?

That's...an entirely different matter then. I can see how that would be annoying and also unfair. But...I dunno maybe I should just stop guessing and trying to understand since I don't actually know your friends. But I like to think that people cherish their friends and even if they can be insensitive dumbasses sometimes, there is actually some good to everything they think and do when it comes to one another.